10 May 2012

Money can buy happiness?

'Money can't buy happiness'.

How many times have you've heard this saying? But one fascinating research done by Michael Northon proves that money actually can buy happiness - when you don't spend it on yourself, but on others. 

What exactly is the reason we feel better spending on someone else if not that we feel good about making the other happier?

It is better to give than to receive, It's all about the feelgood factor.  When we are striving to meet the needs of others, there is a joy that overtakes our minds and our lives. 

Try with a small act of giving - for example, buy a coffee to a stranger :) Happy Thursday!

3 May 2012

Doing small things

Kindness

Today we would like to share with you a story about inner goodness of people and greatness of small moments that make our life brighter and more human. Please enjoy it. 

"I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard
box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her.. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.'

'Oh, you're such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive
through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly..

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice..'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired.Let's go now'.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.
They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

'How much do I owe you?' She asked, reaching into her purse.

'Nothing,' I said

'You have to make a living,' she answered.

'There are other passengers,' I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug.She held onto me tightly.

'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one".

 

Happy Thursday! 

 

(Source: Homestead Survival)

1 May 2012

Come what MAY!

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26 Apr 2012

We want to live by each other’s happiness…

… not by each other’s misery

On this Happy Thursday we want to share the brilliant speech of Charlie Chaplin from the movie “The Great Dictator”.

No comments or conclusions from our side today, the speech is perfect and your own conclusions are just right!

 I'm sorry, but I don't want to be an emperor. That's not my business. I don't want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible; Jew, Gentile, black man, white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other's happiness, not by each other's misery. We don't want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone, and the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone.

The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way. Greed has poisoned men's souls, has barricaded the world with hate, has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed.

We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little.

More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The airplane and the radio have brought us closer together.

The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all. Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me, I say, do not despair.

The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish. Soldiers! Don't give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you, enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don't give yourselves to these unnatural men - machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines, you are not cattle, you are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts! You don't hate! Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural.

Soldiers! Don't fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it is written that the kingdom of God is within man, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power. Let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security.

By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill that promise. They never will! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people. Now let us fight to fulfill that promise. Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance! Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men's happiness. Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite!

Hannah, can you hear me? Wherever you are, look up Hannah! The clouds are lifting! The sun is breaking through! We are coming out of the darkness into the light! We are coming into a new world; a kindlier world, where men will rise above their hate, their greed, and brutality. Look up, Hannah! The soul of man has been given wings and at last he is beginning to fly. He is flying into the rainbow! Into the light of hope, into the future! The glorious future, that belongs to you, to me and to all of us. Look up, Hannah. Look up! 

Happy Thursday!

19 Apr 2012

Happy relationships

People and relationships with them are the most important factors in our life. It is always about creating the right relationship whether it is friendship, love, family or work.

Any relationship should be healthy, caring, loving, kind, upbeat, and positive.  It should make your smile a little wider and your life a little brighter.

So starting today, choose to take control and improve your relationship with people you care about. 

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Happy Thursday to you and your loved ones!

12 Apr 2012

Happiness: revealed and reported


World-happiness-news
Yesterday on our facebook page we posted link to the article “The serious business of creating a happier world” about first UN conference on happiness. We definitely recommend to read the article for your personal development.

Article links to very interesting report on happiness, published recently by Columbia University.

Here we won’t question the finding and methodology, since in Happy Thursday we believe that “if you want to be happy, be happy” (Lev Tolstoy), scientists – of course - can’t use the statement, they need to measure everything.

Although, folks from the Columbian University are very "positive" guys, the report starts with paragraph:

“We live in an age of stark contradictions. The world enjoys technologies of unimaginable sophistication; yet has at least one billion people without enough to eat each day. The world economy is propelled to soaring new heights of productivity through ongoing technological and organizational advance; yet is relentlessly destroying the natural environment in the process. Countries achieve great progress in economic development as conventionally measured; yet along the way succumb to new crises of obesity, smoking, diabetes, depression, and other ills of modern life.”

So, life is so “great” nowadays, that initiatives like Happy Thursday just HAVE to exist to remind people that they ARE originally happy, and all the fun of modern world listed above can be bitten/avoided.

Coming back to report, here we want to share key finding of the research.

“The happiest countries in the world are all in Northern Europe (Denmark, Norway, Finland, Netherlands).” – Congratulations to our friends there!

Happier countries tend to be richer countries. But more important for happiness than income are social factors like the strength of social support, the absence of corruption and the degree of personal freedom. – happiness and success are not “kinda same things”, but definitely, it works well together. And, as you can see, absence of corruption helps your nation to be happy, so NEVER support it. There is always a fair way to solve problems.

Over time as living standards have risen, happiness has increased in some countries, but not in others (like for example, the United States). On average, the world has become a little happier in the last 30 years (by 0.14 times the standard deviation of happiness around the world). – happiness is not a well being, people tend to mix this two things together. Happiness is your “state of life”, fashionably decorated with a well being.  

Unemployment causes as much unhappiness as bereavement or separation. At work, job security and good relationships do more for job satisfaction than high pay and convenient hours. -”Surprise!”

Behaving well makes people happier.- we are really curios what does the author mean here

Mental health is the biggest single factor affecting happiness in any country. Yet only a quarter of mentally ill people get treatment for their condition in advanced countries and fewer in poorer countries. – sounds really sad.

Stable family life and enduring marriages are important for the happiness of parents and children. and again, “Surprise!”.

In advanced countries, women are happier than men, while the position in poorer countries is mixed. – okay, this is really surprising.

Happiness is lowest in middle age. – have the right attitude when you’re young, then your middle age will be happier :P

To finish the post we’d like to quote the report again:

“On the other hand, if we act wisely, we can protect the Earth while raising quality of life broadly around the world.  We can do this by adopting lifestyles and technologies that improve happiness (or life satisfaction) while reducing human damage to the environment.”

We believe that the global happiness starts with right personal attitude. Happy individuals are contagious – they share happiness and spread it around the world. We wish you to become the happy individual in your environment, you have everything for that!

Happy Thursday!

Start sharing happiness with the world today!

 

5 Apr 2012

The tasty alchemy

Have you ever thought about cooking as an alchemy? You’re doing some magic with different ingredients, mixing them together and leaving for some time under a fire. As the end result you have one product with perfect taste, smell and look. But it will never be good enough if you skip the most important part – your soul and enjoyment of the process. Creating tasty food really is an alchemy with its own graal and secrets!

Besides, cooking is a great part of the alchemy of human relations! You’re cooking for someone, have perfect reason to meet your beloved, share the taste of your cooking masterpiece and a bit of your soul that is put inside.

So for the perfect cooking you need 3 parts: you, ingridients and people who will share the experience with you. 

Here we share the cutest video about backing a cake. We hope it will inspire you to practice the art of emotions and impressions, and share the results with your friends and beloved!

Recipe of a beet cake

Ingridients

  • 1 cup butter or margarine, softened, divided
  • 1 1/2 cups packed dark brown sugar
  • 3 eggs
  • 4 (1 ounce) squares semisweet chocolate
  • 2 cups pureed cooked beets
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 2 teaspoons baking soda
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • confectioners' sugar
  • Don't forget to put your sould and enjoyment :)

Directions

In a mixing bowl, cream 3/4 cup butter and brown sugar. Add eggs; mix well. Melt chocolate with remaining butter; stir until smooth. Cool slightly. Blend chocolate mixture, beets and vanilla into the creamed mixture (mixture will appear separated). Combine flour, baking soda and salt; add to the creamed mixture and mix well. Pour into a greased and floured 10-in. fluted tube pan. Bake at 375 degrees F for 45-55 minutes or until a toothpick inserted near the center comes out clean. Cool in pan 10 minutes before removing to a wire rack. Cool completely. Before serving, dust with confectioners' sugar.

Happy Thursday! 

4 Apr 2012

Colour and optimism for everyone this Spring

Spring is here, you can't hide! 

It doesn't matter, if there might be still some snow, or the grass is green and trees are blossoming. Spring mood is here anyway!

So let's live it till its fullest. Be optimistic, be colourful! Be Spring :)

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29 Mar 2012

Listening as an art

Listen_for_blog

Have you noticed that our world is full with talkers? Everyone is just talking all the time: politicians, business leaders, your colleagues at work and even you. But somehow the real state of our society and relationship doesn’t improve as fast as people are talking around about it.

Why are you talking so much? Does it feel that without you talking about different things and especially about YOURSELF, you won’t exist? Probably it does feel that way. You might think that if you purely listen to others, you will feel too ‘quiet’, unheard and misunderstood.

But stop for a minute and think – If there only talkers left, who will be listening? Nobody.

Listening is essential for mutual understanding on personal and societal level. If you don’t listen carefully, you’re not able to understand completely all the concerns and needs of anyone: your friend, your business partner, your life partner. And also you won’t understand yourself: our mouths are talking too much without listening of our hearts.

If you really want to improve relationships in any area of your life, here is a practical exercise for you: the next conversation you’ll have, just stop thinking and talking about yourself and LISTEN. Forget about your own ego and urgent need to speak out. Tune your mind on the frequency of your partner. Stop preparing your answer or comment in your head, unless your opinion is asked, and focus on the one who is talking.

Just be present with your conversational partner.

It might feel strange not talking about yourself, sometimes even frustrating especially when your counterpart doesn’t ask anything about you and keeps on talking about himself. But still, stay present with him and keep on listening. In the end you’re the one to get the reward - complete understanding.

Most of the people have the ability to talk, but not much – ability to listen. So be the one from the precious minority.

Happy Thursday!

 

22 Mar 2012

Don’t leave your belongings behind

Baggage-allowances

“Please, don’t leave your belongings”, we hear every day in trains, airports and public places. We should repeat it more often in our lives.

We constantly move forward, grow, develop and change. But though the live we also carry our belongings – memories, experience and people. Sometimes we even run forward trying to forget everything. No worries, your past will catch you anyways.

 But at some point you start to understand what is important and who is important. Only then you realize that should have never left those things or people behind. 

Instead, gently carry your belongings to new destinations: it helps you to grow faster and live wiser. Nowadays keeping in touch with the dearest people is not that hard, it’s a matter of call, skype chat or a post card with reminder that the person matters in your life. In doesn’t matter where your dearest people are located. Their support is always with you!

Catch up with those you think are important, also remind them that for some particular reason those people are playing tremendous role in your life. These are your belongings, “your world”. There is a saying, that when you start dating someone you accept his or her world – together with their habits, memories and people. And this is very true – we are sociable creatures and we need to have an environment around. So why don’t you take care about your own social environment?

Remember about your people, carry your memories and leverage on your experience. And what is the most important – don’t leave these belongings behind!

Happy Thursday!

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